Updated: Feb 17, 2019
The elusive practice of quieting the mind. It is something I had practiced before motherhood, but never truly understood until recently. I think it took becoming a mama for me to to appreciate and understand the importance of silence.
Before my daughter joined our lives, I had time everyday to “meditate” for as long as I wanted. Back then, I preferred guided meditation or visualizations. While I tried to do it most days, meditation often felt like a box to be checked off. I thought of myself as a “yogi”, and yogis meditated, so therefore I must meditate too.
Once my daughter Rosemary arrived, I felt a little trapped by the constantness of being a nursing mother. Day in and day out I was subject to the demands of being needed and sometimes felt like I couldn’t breathe. It was then, that I truly found meditation. Except, it wasn’t the 60 minutes of complete stillness I was used to... it was 10-15 minutes max on good days, and some days it was 2 minutes here, 3 minutes there.
I discovered that those few sacred minutes spent in silence and intention were my ticket to freedom. They allowed me the space I needed to feel and hear myself again. They allowed me to find presence with my daughter instead of watching the clock until my partner walked in the door from work.
So how do I make time for meditation? I look at our daily rhythm of life, and find naturally quiet times throughout the day. I commit to meditating at least one of those quiet times each and every day.
Here are a few of the times I have found to meditate in my daily life-
1)Early in the morning before my family awakes and before the sun rises.
The trick to this is to not look at your phone. Wake up, use the bathroom, brush your teeth, and settle into your meditation. My favorite place to meditate in the mornings, especially during the cold winter months, is in a warm bath with epsom salts and a few drops of essential oil.
2) In the afternoon when I nurse my daughter down to nap.
I draw my awareness to my breath. With each inhale, I visualize myself filling up with love and each exhale I send that love to my heart and my daughter’s heart. With each breath I try to lengthen the inhalation and exhalation.
3) During naptime.
This is favorite time of mine to meditate. I know for moms with more than one child, this may not be an option, but for me, once baby is asleep I avoid checking my phone, and walk right to my meditation space or draw a bath. The chores can wait. When I was still nursing I would meditate while pumping to take my mind away from the sensations.
4) While doing errands.
When I have the opportunity to drive somewhere solo (without my daughter) I will take 5 minutes upon arriving to my destination to mediate in the car before getting out. If I am with my daughter and she is content in her carseat when we arrive somewhere, I will also take that time to tune-in and briefly meditatie.
5) In the evening after I get my daughter down for bed.
If my partner is home at this time, I like to use it as a chance for us to meditate together. We do this by sitting back to back and feeling each other’s breath, or standing with our foreheads touching.
I challenge you to take a look at your daily schedule to see if there are few periods throughout the day to get quiet. It took me at least a month to get into a routine of practicing daily but it has made our lives so much more enjoyable. If you give it a try, drop a comment below and let me know how a few moments of meditation impacts your life.
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